EQUIP YOUR KIDS WITH TOOLS

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TARGET AUDIENCE

  • Personal
  • Parents
  • Youth

CATEGORIES

  • Bullying
  • Education
  • Parenting
  • Speak Up

THE PURPOSE

The purpose of this article is to highlight the importance of creating a safe environment for open communications and  equipping kids with tools and techniques to handle adverse situations.

background

Several problems occur when parents do not create a safe environment for open communications. Parents perceive that everything is well with their kids, while their kids build up resentment and feeling of rejection and misinterpretation of the situations and incidents that they are encountering and unable to resolve it on their own.

The second issue is that kids adopt to handle adverse situations in silence leading to abusive relationships as adults which   hinders their healthy growth in other aspects of their life.

Much research repeatedly shows that kids are a reflection of their parents. They mimic our behavior.  So, you as a parent must demonstrate a healthy approach to adverse situations for your kids to be proactive and engage in open communications. You as a parent must demonstrate when you encounter adverse situations there is a healthy process to conflict resolution.

If you as a parent do NOT demonstrate it by your action, you child most likely will follow by your example. Solving issue in silence is not possible! The opportunity to understand the issues and equip your child with tools and techniques is none existent.

proposed solutions

Parents must first and foremost create a safe environment for open communications at home.  Parents must be available emotionally and mentally listen attentively to their kids daily affairs and activities. Ask questions in a non threatening way, do not judge your kids, validate their feelings, do not dismiss their story or beliefs, and share with them your stories, struggles, failures, and success in resolving similar issues.

Second step is to provide kids with the tools and techniques to resolve issues successfully and setting up their expectations that it may takes several time before issue is resolved.

If the issue is far gone, meaning, that your child can no longer  handle it on his own. You as a parent must be his/her advocate and ambassador. How?

  1. Talk to the school administration
  2. Call the parent of the kids inflicting the pain and make them aware of the situation

In both of the conversations with the school administration and the violator parents, you must:

  1. Demand consequences and action to be taken to repair the situation
  2. Document the issue
  3. Talk to other parents to increase awareness and assess the extent of the issue

ONLY when parents demonstrate certain behavior kids will follow.

When people speak up and share their experiences, you gain the knowledge how to fix the situations and  to stop it on time before it escalates to  extreme abuse or points of no return.

NEVER REMAIN SILENT!

Help create a collaborative environment for open and honest conversations!

bottom line

When people speak up and share their experiences, you gain the knowledge how to fix the situations and  to stop it on time before it escalates to  extreme abuse or points of no return.

NEVER REMAIN SILENT!

Help create a collaborative environment for open and honest conversations!

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